Saturday, May 17 | By: Bonnie Sorsby
There’s a particular ache that comes with wanting to be seen and simultaneously fearing what that visibility might bring.
You want to show up.
You want to share what’s real.
You want to lead, launch, speak, or simply exist without hiding.
But something clenches when you try.
That something is what many call a visibility wound... a deep emotional imprint that tells you it’s not safe to be fully seen.
A visibility wound isn’t just fear of public speaking or getting on camera.
It’s the internal story that says:
✧ If I’m fully seen, I’ll be judged
✧ If I show my truth, I’ll be misunderstood
✧ If I take up space, I’ll lose love, safety, or belonging
It often traces back to early experiences and moments where being visible brought pain, rejection, or shame. For creatives and entrepreneurs, this can quietly shape how you show up in your business.
You may have a visibility wound if you:
✧ Stay vague in your messaging to avoid being “too much”
✧ Constantly tweak your branding but never feel ready to launch
✧ Underprice or over-explain to justify your value
✧ Avoid sharing personal truths or strong opinions
✧ Overthink every post, pitch, or email to the point of paralysis
Sometimes visibility wounds don’t scream. They whisper.
They show up in hesitation, over-efforting, and the quiet urge to stay small.
The simple truth is that visibility wounding (like any emotional trigger) is just asking to be seen, held, loved, and gently reshaped.
You don’t need to dig up your whole past to begin this work.
You only need to start with presence.
Here are two journal prompts to help you begin:
✨ What part of me feels unsafe when I imagine being fully seen in my work?
✨ Where in my business am I holding back, not because it’s wrong, but because I’m afraid?
No need to rush for answers. Let whatever arises be enough.
This work isn’t about fixing on the fly. It’s about meeting what’s there.
Unpacking a visibility wound isn’t something you check off a list.
It unfolds in layers. Sometimes you feel clear and confident. Other times, the fear creeps back in.
That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It means you’re human.
The more gently you meet the fear, the more space you create for your voice to rise.
If visibility feels tender or tangled for you, know that you're not alone.
You’re not broken. You’re being invited into a deeper relationship with yourself.
Let the wound speak. Let it be witnessed.
Because the more love you bring to the parts that fear being seen, the more powerful your presence becomes.
And when you're ready, there’s a bigger conversation waiting.
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